Sorry all , been a while since I was last on with the holidays and such. So I wanted to update. Dave is eating nicely. had 2 feedings problem free . He is socializing very well and loves to be out of his tank . He roams all over us when we are holding him. i am even far more comfortable with him now too. Ans yes now I am pretty sure he is a male. I tried the method someone had posted earlier in this thread and there was a definate bump. He roams all over his cage , he drinks frequently , and eats one fuzzy once a week. I think we are doing ok with him. I am even holding him lots now. He is very forgiving. He was letting me know I think that I was not ready to handle him and I was mistaking it for aggression. he has never tried to strike at me or anyone but every time I tried to pick him up he would ball up or try to run away . Now the last 3 r 4 days he sees my hand and he stretches out and does not even flinch when I touch him or try to pick him up. he loves to climb my arm and he is very interested in my laptop. Always trying to get to it lol. I think he must be feeling the heat from the CPU . I did find out tonight the pet store had mis priced him , we payed $150 for him and he was supposed to be $210 . We also found out he is a pastel and from what other friends of mine have told me , we got a great deal on him for that price. They have another there who was surrendered after the apt building she lived in had a severe fire. She is about 3 ft and 4 years old. I am thinking about taking her next . She has a very calm demeanor too. Guess it is true , snakes ARE like potato chips , you can't have just one