Less sarcasm, more pleasantry.

[limey]

I just joined fairly recently and I'm finding quite a few sarcastic people on this forum. If you have a positive comment, by all means. If you wish to give insightful information, by all means. However, if you have nothing nice to say or just wish to come across as arrogant, please check your comments at the door.

It would be for the betterment of all members.

Thanks :)

[snake man12]

I completely agree^^^^

[CK SandBoas]

You know what, i think this particular horse has been beaten, tenderized, and even overcooked over the past few months. I, myself, have always liked some sarcasm thrown in, it makes for a more active and interesting thread.

People are not going to change the way they respond on a thread, just because others do not care for the way they answer. If you don't like the way a member responds, don't come back to the thread.

Pleasantry is seriously overrated.....

[Squirtle]

You know what, i think this particular horse has been beaten, tenderized, and even overcooked over the past few months. I, myself, have always liked some sarcasm thrown in, it makes for a more active and interesting thread.

People are not going to change the way they respond on a thread, just because others do not care for the way they answer. If you don't like the way a member responds, don't come back to the thread.

Pleasantry is seriously overrated.....

[exwizard]

Whatever...

[infernalis]

The thing is, as a group grows, the assortment of personalities grows too.

[Pareeeee]

Some people enjoy sarcasm. I am a sarcastic person by nature. I don't like it when people act arrogant or malicious toward others, however.

[Snakefood]

sarcasm is an art........arrogance is a character flaw.......IMO of course!!

[StudentoReptile]

You know what, i think this particular horse has been beaten, tenderized, and even overcooked over the past few months. I, myself, have always liked some sarcasm thrown in, it makes for a more active and interesting thread.

People are not going to change the way they respond on a thread, just because others do not care for the way they answer. If you don't like the way a member responds, don't come back to the thread.

Pleasantry is seriously overrated.....

^^^^^This^^^^^

I know I come across as sarcastic and arrogant sometimes, and ya know what, I don't see myself changing anytime soon.

On the flipside to the OP's post, I could say that I think too many people get bent out of shape because they ask for advice, and don't like what they hear, or they post something they think is super mega awesome, only to find out peoples' reactions are not what they anticipated.

And that's not really directed at anyone in particular. Just something I have observed over the years. A lot of people I suppose expect everything to be sugar-coated for them, and they get a little dose of tough love, and they don't like it.

[limey]

You know what, i think this particular horse has been beaten, tenderized, and even overcooked over the past few months. I, myself, have always liked some sarcasm thrown in, it makes for a more active and interesting thread.

People are not going to change the way they respond on a thread, just because others do not care for the way they answer. If you don't like the way a member responds, don't come back to the thread.

Pleasantry is seriously overrated.....

I would agree that sarcasm is fine to a degree, variety is the spice of life, and we all tend to know when people are being sarcastic in a funny way and take it in good jest.

However there is a line. When people perhaps come across as arrogant or disrespectful it benefits nobody.

I suspect most people wouldn't tolerate demeaning people in their regular everyday lives, I know I wouldn't. But then again, I was brought up with good manners.

I can't expect everybody to be the same, of course. But I'm sure a light and friendly crowd would be better received than a negative one.

I'm sure you see my point :)

Best,

Limey

[alessia55]

There's a wide variety of people on this big forum, with a wide variety of personalities and writing styles. Sarcasm is optional, but tolerance is a must. So, as long as we all respect each other, sarcasm is always going to be welcome here. Personally, I enjoy the variety of writing styles and tones, and I can appreciate some dry humor ;)

[CK SandBoas]

When it comes to the welfare of an animal, sometimes brutal honesty is the best method to get through to someone, instead of trying not to hurt someone's feelings.

Heck, if you had to, hit me over the head with a hammer to make me see if i was doing something wrong that could potentially harm any of my snakes.

[Snakefood]

hmmm........hammers :D

[limey]

When it comes to the welfare of an animal, sometimes brutal honesty is the best method to get through to someone, instead of trying not to hurt someone's feelings.

Heck, if you had to, hit me over the head with a hammer to make me see if i was doing something wrong that could potentially harm any of my snakes.

Very valid point there. I agree 100%.

I guess what it amounts to is 2 things:

1. Using important social skills, the same skills a person uses everyday to ensure they aren't immediately disliked by everybody.

2. Knowing when an issue is so critical that you must make a steadfast point about an animals welfare, regardless of how much of a (k)nob you may sound. Because animal welfare is paramount.

However, many people in society choose to be permanently in (k)nob mode and that's when tensions become frayed. This isn't referring to anybody here, I'm just trying to clear up what I meant :)

As a security cop and former military police officer, I tend to deal with many of these walking humanoids of pent-up frustration on an hourly basis and so I guess it just gets old after a while... always nice and refreshing to meet those from the flip side of the coin :)

Case closed! Thanks for all the great responses! Valid points on all counts...

[jaleely]

You should just call out who you mean, or pm them with issues, rather than make a blanket statement that gets everyone involved in a pointless discussion.
I am all for being honest...and i do think it can be done without being rude. I do think being polite is appreciated.

... However, i'm kind of sick of all of these threads that seem to just want to complain and start things. Why are you even posting this except to vent, and act offended? Who do you even mean, and why are you bringing the rest of us into it?
It's not really necessary. And, you're not going to change anyone's online personality. I have actually become more outspoken and opinionated the more i see people complaining. This, is a perfect example.

I'm pretty much of the opinion, get what you need from the information provided, if it annoys you, pass it by, and if you don't like the discussion, don't read it. *shrug* These kind of threads are far more annoying than someone being randomly rude.

[limey]

However, i'm kind of sick of all of these threads that seem to just want to complain and start things. Why are you even posting this except to vent, and act offended? Who do you even mean, and why are you bringing the rest of us into it?

That's not very amicable. Please read my last post.

Not intentionally "starting anything". Those that wish to comment, choose to do so. You do not have to read the thread if you don't like it.

I have not posted anything like this before, and was not aware that other people had done so.

I just joined last week. I was pointing out something that I thought needed addressing. Had no idea others had done the same.

[jaleely]

So...your advice to me is not to read, or post on a thread that annoys me.
Hmmmm...... . . .
Well, I think i see your point.

Politely, pardon the sarcasm...but...why exactly did you post this thread if your advice to someone who is annoyed by a thread...to not read said thread?
Shouldn't you be taking your own advice? I think I'm confused here.

Even if there hadn't already been someone complaining about rudeness on the internet (which I know must be unheard of) your thread would still be considered "starting something".
I don't see how you don't see yourself as part of the problem. That's my point. Posting a blanket thread is not a solution and isn't going to solve anything.

[buffcoat]

Yeah mate, this really is like flogging a dead horse (had to toss in that Sex Pistols reference!) Not your fault though. I've always been taught that its harder to change the first impression you get of someone if its bad. I thought the same thing. Some cats here are just brutally honest and come off very nasty. However after reading most of what they had to say, even though it was written in a very derrogatory manner, their advice was and will continue to be spot on. Once you figure out how to get past the nastiness you will hopefully see that.

Take it very light hearted.

That's one long redundant paragraph. I'm not gonna punctuate and spell check. It's too hard from my phone!

[UwabamiReptiles]

Whatever...


Sarcasm at its best ^^I like it!:D

[limey]

Yeah mate, this really is like flogging a dead horse (had to toss in that Sex Pistols reference!) Not your fault though. I've always been taught that its harder to change the first impression you get of someone if its bad. I thought the same thing. Some cats here are just brutally honest and come off very nasty. However after reading most of what they had to say, even though it was written in a very derrogatory manner, their advice was and will continue to be spot on. Once you figure out how to get past the nastiness you will hopefully see that.

Take it very light hearted.

That's one long redundant paragraph. I'm not gonna punctuate and spell check. It's too hard from my phone!

Cheers mate. I'll take that advice. Appreciate it, bud.

[Jay]

I think he's met mkyee...