Roy, well said!!
I personally can't imagine what it's like being with a person who does not understand nor share my passion/addiction, but to parallel Roy, there have been times when our mutal obessesion has come between Vanan and I. As for powering each other to ruiniation. Well as I said before, Vanan is one of those rare herpers with "self restraint" and when he seems me go off the deep end he's there to knock some sense into me. Before each purchase we discuss, and each new animal, must be ok'd by the other. There have been times, when I have stopped Vanan and many when he has stopped me.
Anywho, I think the most important part here is not your b/f's lack of interest in your hobby, but his flagrant disregard for your feelings. That is the real crux of the matter.