I just checked snakes and read your post. That is the saddest thing I've read in a long time, I really don't know what to say - but I really feel for you.
Just on Saturday, I saw a bunch of mollocun cockatoos, and macaws - at a 29 year zoo in a school that was closing. It broke my heart to realize that those birds were having to be rehomed, away from their "one person" - who they were really bonded to.
I was sad just taking some reptiles out of there, I felt like the birds knew exactly what was going on.
I hadn't realized before Saturday how close people and birds could get, I think possibly closer than dogs.
On Sunday, I was discussing how close parrots could get to people, with a herpetologist friend of mine who lives here in town.
If we were home more, I would keep parrots. I'd be afraid how close I'd get to them, however and can't imagine what I'd do if I found myself in the same situation that you were in.